Letting go.

This is going to be a long one... so please, grab a bag of popcorn. *smile* And its going to be in multiple parts... because I'm not done meditating this one out.

Commitment.

If I have a major thing that I coach people through, its men and commitment. Taking a friend and helping them deal with making a choice and sticking to it.

Typically in a relationship sense, its true... but commitment in general.

Men are afraid of holding on.

But whats the deal?

Until you sign the papers, you haven't bought the house... you know?

So what makes tomorrow more scary than today?

That's what baffles me. And what i help others work through.

No matter what, we are in charge of our futures. We are in control (no matter how hard we tell ourselves we're not) of what happens to us and what we do.

And there is nothing wrong with changing your mind either.

So your in a relationship. You get closer to the girl, she moves in maybe. Or you share love; express feelings and emotion.

Today, vs. tomorrow... if your enjoying yourself; love being with that person and can't imagine being with any one else... but you don't think your ready for commitment... its no big deal.

Don't get upset and excited. Continue to enjoy yourself. Be open and honest with your partner for sure, but be honest with yourself most of all.

Don't be afraid of loosing yourself. Don't be afraid of becoming someone else or trying something differently.

Why? because you can always come back to being who you were before.

There is nothing you can do that you can't undo. And you have to understand that. Commitment is like passing a 'point of no return'... except as perfect beings... there is nothing we can't be, nothing we can't do, nothing we can't undo.

We have no 'point of no return'. Its always intention based, always feeling and thought based. Happiness is a reference point we hold in our mind... something we create because of our obsessively compiling and labeling nature.