Zero investment

Here's a thought.

I was watching a presentation on human interaction. The guy who was doing the presentation talked about commitment into a situation/interaction.

Said that people who have invested in something see more value in it and are likely to stay with it for better or worse than those who don't commit to it but can see a higher gain.

He used a lot of metaphors which were all wonderful. I dilute the message because I don't want to copy his material. Just mention is and sorta off-shoot.

So here's a proposal.

Yeah, invest in things. Invest largely in things. But don't look on a long term return, look at what you get instantly and count everything else a bonus.

That you invest money into going out with a person. Invest energy into making her/him/them smile. Invest emotion into making everything perfect.

What can you expect out of this?

Now.

Thats the only thing thats real.

Now.

Not that later is any less real. Not that you can't plant a seed and watch it grow, take care of it and water it; enjoying the fruit it finally produces.

But look at what you get from it.

The planting isn't the investment and the fruit isn't the return.

The planting is its own reward. The watering its own reward.

Every moment your creating your own mental status and situation.

Take pleasure in taking care of the tree. Not to see it grow, but because the moments you take to water it and care for it, as you give it your own energy, you gain equally. True, the longer you care for something... a residue will develop. Increasing gains from the same effort.

Ultimately, modeling after this mindset, your not "committed" to anything. Your not "owed" anything from your initial investment of time.

Its already been paid back.

Your ... free.